February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month
This week’s blog is written by Jada Charley, CEO/President, SAFE Homes Rape Crisis CoalitionWhat I Wish Everyone Knew About Teen Dating Violence
Teen dating violence is becoming more frequent, with 1 in 10 girls and 1 in 25 boys reporting that they have experienced physical or sexual violence in their relationships. Dating violence can be physical, sexual, psychological, or stalking.- Physical violence is when a person hurts or tries to hurt a partner by hitting, kicking, or using another type of physical force.
- Sexual violence is forcing or attempting to force a partner to take part in a sex act, sexual touching, or a non-physical sexual event (e.g., sexting) when the partner does not or cannot consent.
- Psychological aggression is the use of verbal and non-verbal communication with the intent to harm another person mentally or emotionally and/or exert control over another person.
- Stalking is a pattern of repeated, unwanted attention and contact by a partner that causes fear or concern for one’s own safety or the safety of someone close to the victim.
- Checking their cell phone or email without permission
- Constantly putting them down
- Extreme jealousy or insecurity
- Explosive temper
- Isolating them from family or friends
- Making false accusations
- Mood swings
- Physically hurting them in any way
- Possessiveness
- Telling them what to do
- Treat them with respect.
- Doesn’t make fun of things they like or want to do.
- Never puts them down.
- Doesn’t get angry if they spend time with friends or family.
- Listens to their ideas and comprises sometimes.
- Isn’t excessively negative.
- Shares some of their interests such as movies, sports, reading, dancing or music.
- Isn’t afraid to share their thoughts and feelings.
- Is comfortable around their friends and family.
- Is proud of their accomplishments and successes.
- Respects their boundaries and does not abuse technology.
- Doesn’t require them to “check in” or need to know where they are all the time.
- Is caring and honest.
- Doesn’t pressure them to do things that they don’t want to do.
- Doesn’t constantly accuse them of cheating or being unfaithful.
- Encourages them to do well in school or at work.
- Doesn’t threaten them or make them feel scared.
- Understands the importance of healthy relationships